We're Off

We're off tomorrow to go skiing in Canada for a long while, and we cashed in a load of Aidan's air miles so we'll be flying business out there, and first on the way back (which is possibly more exciting to me than you can imagine.  I'm immature, I'm ok with it.) 

Christmas passed and Santa was good to me.  All of Aidan's family (including the monsters) came for a long day yesterday.  I had good fun, and only had to endure one uncomfortable conversation.  It was between Aidan's brother-in-law (whose Mrs. is giving birth this Friday to their son) and Aidan's Mum.  Aidan's brother was bemoaning the fact that his son wouldn't have any relatives born close to it, in similar age.  His Mum nodded and said sadly that she hoped one of his friends could get knocked up soon, since she doesn't know anyone else who could/would be having babies.

They didn't even look at me.

And the fact that I should be 5 months pregnant right now didn't escape me.

But I know it wasn't done in malice-they have absolutely no idea that we've been trying, that we had a loss, or that we even think about having babies.  So it comes as no surprise-if we don't tell people, we can't expect them to be aware of the sensitivities (and we don't tell anyone about what's going on, it's what Aidan wants). 

So...yeah.  There you have it.

We'll be back the 8th, by which time I'll have been down-regulating for 3 days, and no doubt crying at Tampax commercials.

See you soon, and Happy New Year.

Comments

[Tinker]

Have you been peeking into my calendar?
We hosted family for Christmas (I have the same infertility-hush husband and siblings who don't know). I would have been 16 weeks pregnant yesterday. And I start downregulation ('snurfling' as my husband calls it) on the 7th. As for skiing... well, Christmas Day used to be the start of the ski season for my husband and me. I got new skis for Christmas in 2003, used them a few times that winter and they've been stuck in the garage since. *sigh*

And it looks like you'll have great skiing weather; Whistler has had nearly a half metre of new snow in the last two days, with sunshine and temperatures just below freezing. Lucky girl.

[Jenny (vegas)]

It's hard to hold it in when things seem to be said with blatant disregard to your situation, even if nobody else is aware of what's going on. Thank goodness for the blogging community here... we all understand and we are helping make the world more sensitive one blogger at a time, I feel. Thanks to your blog I now know many potential angles of human interaction that I was previously ignorant of, and so now I am very careful about what I say to others, unless they start the conversation with, "Oh, we're trying for a baby! We just started last month."
So thank you for blogging.

I hope you have a fantastic time away, and know that you will be missed.

[Meri-ann]

Happy New Year to you too!

I hope you have a wonderful time away.... x

[Pamplemousse]

Have a great time!!! Suck down all the champers in first class that you can lay your mitts on hehe.

[Lut C.]

I'm so glad I finally convinced my husband to come out of the closet with his parents. His siblings we're still keeping in the dark for now.
I hope Aidan changes his mind soon, because it is slow torture sometimes.

Enjoy the trip!

[Ice Queen]

Here's to the new year, hoping 2007 brings you continued prosperity, love, faith and hope.

[teamwinks]

Hate to ask, but why not tell them? Would they be receptive?

Have a great time skiing!

[Sara]

It's so hard to cope with comments like that. Honestly, I don't think that anyone should ever assume ANYTHING about the reproductive plans of any couple, but sadly, people do it all of the time. Infertility and loss are talked about so rarely that most people are totally clueless about the fact that someone close to them is likely dealing with one or the other at any given time.

Anyway, I hope that the skiing was wonderful, and that you have a very happy new year.

[jenny]

I am all to curious as to where you are right now but I have to assume the west coast since we don't have any snow (and crappy excuses for mountains) in Ontario. I hope your enjoying your trip.